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Divorcees, singles, etc.
Published on September 5, 2004 By apdelong31 In Personal Relationships
Some of my JU buddies on here might know, but I'm freshly single after a year and ten days. I'll give you a somewhat detailed rundown for anyone that's interested:

Apparently, things were going downhill in our relationship, but I didn't notice anything. Anyway, two days before school, she calls me at about 9.45 and tells me, crying, that we'd be better as friends. Since this was a pretty big moment, I remembered a lot of what she said, stuff about "things getting too serious", "wanting to be good friends with benefits", "going out to the movies and just having fun as good friends". I thought that's the way it would go down. I also asked her if it was anything I did or if there was another guy, and she gave me an adamant "No". Anyway, how naive and foolish I must have been.

I tried getting some answers out of her the next couple days via IM, e-mail, telephone, in person. At school, it was like she was a completely different person. She looked at me like I was stupid, hardly talked to me, wouldn't hug me, wouldn't even give me like a handshake/high five thing. Two days later, she's wearing a football player's jersey (which I wasn't expecting considering whose it was) and kind of mildly flirting around with him. For those keeping score, that's two marks in the "Bull Shit" column.

By the next week, she couldn't even look at me and said maybe a dozen words total the whole week, but she gave me my class ring back which was good. During the week the football player, whom we will address as "CC", started sitting with her at lunch, walking with her in the hallways, waiting for her, going to his CAR with her, etc. Consequently, CC doesn't talk to me anymore.

It would be a lot more fun if she actually still cared about me because I could ignore her to make her mad, but she doesn't care a lick. She made it VERY easy to move on and I've done just that. It wouldn't have been so bad if she hadn't fed me SO many lies and so much shit.

I know the tenses were all screwed up in that story and it's VERY "high school drama" material, but I've been away and wanted some opinions on a question, which was my original purpose in writing this article:

To divorcees and those who have been dropped cold like I, do you admit that you loved them? I can't deny that I loved her for a year and ten days, and it's probably a stupid question, do can you admit that you gave them all of your heart before they ate it, chewed it, spit it out, and stomped it into the ground?

Comments
on Sep 05, 2004
Awww.....Andy this is horrible. I had no idea that you guys broke up. I'm just not getting all the info i used to. I used to be best friends with Ashley. We used to be like sisters, that's how close we were. I loved her as a sister. And this was like from kindergarten to the middle of our 7th grade year. She left me to go and be popular. She didn't talk to me anymore. Never called me on the phone anymore. Didn't even sit with me at lunch or anything. We even sat by each other in most classes and she never spoke a word. It's pretty much been like that from then until this very day. So I guess I can kind of relate. She fed me a bunch of shit, like saying, "Oh, we're still friends, but I've been busy lately and haven't had time for anyone." Yeah, a lie 100% of the way. She'd rather have time for Ashlee Strickler and them popular people. OH, and I'm curious about who this CC guy is. I think I might know who it is, but im not sure. So maybe you could tell me if it's not a problem the next time you're on messenger? Yeah, don't worry, i feel your pain too. If you need someone to talk to, you can always talk to me. I'm here for ya!

~carebear~
on Sep 09, 2004
Oh....she's a bitch isn't she?....or she can't commit.....hmm....seems to be bit of a pattern with dropping people, huh?......Well, Andy, my friend.....I'm sorry she dumped you....I can imagine how if feels....but don't worry, there's always someone else out there....someone better. The pain will pass....and you'll be over her in no time....which you could be now, because I take so damn long to check anybody's damn blog because I haven't been on here in freakin' two weeks because of freakin' school making me so damn tired......GRRRR....whew sorry, lost my cool.....I'm better now.....*deep breath*....Ahhhh....sootheing.....

(Also curious as to who CC is....perhaps we can get even?...)

Well....good luck in the world of relationships....for it is a fickle and unforgiving world,
~Zoo

on Sep 09, 2004
There's nothing wrong with admitting that you loved them if you did...but don't use it as a negotiating tool (as in "I always loved you and you treated me like..."--not good for either of your mental healths)...

Not trying to be cheesey, but have you ever heard the Garth Brooks song "The Dance." It really fits. Here's a sampling...

And now I'm glad I didn't know
The way it all would end the way it all would go
Our lives are better left to chance I could have missed the pain
But I'd of had to miss the dance


So, it might not have worked, but I'm sure you had your good times and I'm sure in the past year you've learned a lot and hopefully grown a lot--that's all we can ask from relationships.